The ultimate question of “How to achieve your goals”?

How to achieve your goals

Hi there!!!! I am very into goals setting, goals achieving, goals writing and so on and so on. It all started in 2014 when I moved to the Netherlands and had a lot of time to read, think, look for a new job and learn English….By this time I spent a lot of time in self-improvement and self-development process/ reading and bought a notebook that I still keep where I started to write recipes, tips for how to find a job, or just noted quotes of the books I was reading. One of a sudden, I started writing down things I would like to do like, for example, a hot-air balloon riding, get a tattoo and go to Cirque du Soleil. These were simple things to do/ accomplish, they cannot be categorized as “dreams”…But when you write your goals, you are already on the halfway of accomplishing them. All that happened by the end of 2014. So obviously, in the beginning of 2015, I set up my “2015 New Year’s Resolutions” list which included more and more sophisticated things than the ones in 2015. Everything I put on writing, happened to become a reality which really impressed me. I continued to read and take more and more notes, kept writing everything that crossed my mind, that I ticked everytime I accomplished something. By the end of 2015, I had a lunch with colleagues of mine and everybody was talking and asking about the “2016 Resolutions” when one of my friends mentioned reading somewhere that instead of setting goals, one should try to make an annual review and give a score to the last year. All the not-accomplished things can be envisioned as accomplished by the end of the next year, and the feeling of seeing your goals coming true explained in details. The exercise sounded very appealing to me and I could not wait to come back home. I wrote down everything I accomplished, did, achieved and everything I did not. All the paperwork made the picture clear – what are the goals for the next year really were….I wrote down three important things that I absolutely had to do by the end of 2016…But then I forgot about the list…..The year was following its course and by the end of the year, I opened by accident the notebook where I have put the ultimate three things to be done by the end of 2016 and voila – all of them were accomplished!!!! That was umbelievable!!!! I could not take my eyes of that page, I just could not realize how was it possible????? But still I was very very happy and continued to dig into this vast subject about the goals and how to accomplish them…After a studious research, I am coming up with my version of the successful recipe. Here we go:

  1. Think about your dreams/ goals/ things you want to have or accomplish and write them down. This is the most important part of the exercise. Writing them down gives you a significant edge and propels you to the halfway of accomplishing them. Seriously…
  2. When you write them down, try to be specific – the ultimate example given is “lose weight”, but this is not a specific goal, that’s why a lot of people fail at it. Instead, you can try this one: by the end of …..I want to lose 5 kilos and exercise 30 minutes three times a week. That’s something else. You know what is your departure point what you have to do and where you are going…
  3. Set deadlines…I learned that the hard way….Setting deadlines is the key to success, otherwise, you will procrastinate and be lazy and not achieve your goals never ever….When you are determined to do something within a period of time, you are on your way to definitely do it and your brain is searching ways how to stick to the deadlines.
  4. Review your goals on a regular basis: this has a lot to do with motivation, focus and frustration. 1.Motivation – when you review your goals regularly, you’ll be reminded of what do you really want and not just write down some nice things to achieve and forget about them the minute after. 2.Focus – coming back to your goals will keep you focused and not distracted by the others and their ideas of what to achieve and what to fight for. 3.Frustration – very often, one decides to do something with a huge determination, but once he or she shares his or her idea with someone, he/ she becomes aware of potential not expected difficulties on one’s way. At first sight, that can be confusing and even frustrating and one can think about giving up…So this is the reason why you should absolutely open your notebook and review your goals and stick to the plan. Everything that lasts has been built up the hard way, nothing is easy…don’t forget that. To become an expert, you should first follow the entire process from the beginning…This applies to goals as well.
  5. Take action or just do something, but never sit arms crossed and wait for a miracle to happen. Everything you wish for is your responsibility and if you want to do something, think about it in details and you’ll absolutely figure out how to make it happen.
  6. Setting goals can be very contagious, motivating, a mind-blowing exercise that will boost you and make you feel heavenly…But…there is a big but….be careful, too many goals and too many big goals can be very depressing as well…because you will realize that one life is just not enough to do all these things..and you are absolutely right!!!!So, just as I already said…review your wishlist on a regular basis and give up on the goals that are not aligned with your inner peace….
  7. Stay true to yourself!!!! Only make things you believe in and that makes you happy!!!! Don’t be influenced by what other people have achieved and try to model them…The comparison game is not a healthy one and you will definitely lose.

So you have all the tips for an exciting goal setting exercise. Don’t think too much, just write down and put everyting on paper. And the last, but not the least thing…DO NOT QUESTION YOUR DREAMS AND GOALS..ANYTING AND EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE..STAY ATTUNED AND LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING!

Thanks for reading!